One for the Dads
This morning while in the shower (where all the best ideas are born) I came to the realization that I am more like my mom than I ever imagined. In the past, I would have said I was my dad's clone. I look so much like him, a complete stranger once came up to me in a store to ask if I was Steve Laber's daughter.
I certainly have his build (yeah me - probably wouldn't be so bad if I were a boy).
You can even thank my dad for my sense of humor and wit (some would say sarcastic smart ass).
It wasn't until I started writing this blog about my life as a mom and my childhood that I realized how closely I am following in my mom's parenting footsteps. I started looking at this from a dad's perspective and how new dad's today relate to dads in the Boomer generation.
- read me Mickey's Magic Grinder more times than I can count
- taught me to ride a bike
- tried desperately to get me to like soft ball (I didn't make it past t-ball)
- practiced my spelling words and flash cards with me
- let me pounce on his stomach just like in Hop on Pop
- showed me the value of a dollar and the meaning of generosity
- taught me how to drive a car
- allowed me to be myself
- my mom taught me to cook, but dad showed me how to make a mess in the kitchen
- through his quest to create the perfect pizza dough recipe, I saw the value of learning from your experiences
- coached some of my siblings little league teams
- he helped me pick a college and career
- found my first apartment
- moved me in the green mini-van (may it rest in peace) more times than I remember
- sat through my 4 hour dance recitals (if he was sleeping, I couldn't tell from on stage)
- showed me how to check the oil (I don't think I have done it since then)
- bought my first car (miss you Simon)
- encouraged me to believe in myself
- to stand my ground
- and that there is dignity in admitting when you are wrong (of course I inherited stubbornness from both my parents so it takes me a long time to come around-but I am dignified should I actually admit it)
My husband (and other younger dads I know) also:
- change diapers
- feed kids
- some even cook (I so wish this were Pete, just once in a while would be awesome)
- help with the chores
- deal with repairs
- more and more are stay at home dads
- take the kids for a walk in the stroller
- play video games with the kids
- weekly pillow fights
- not only know what the diaper bag looks like but actually help pack it
- frequently watch kid tv programs (why fight it?)
- understand the importance of Girls' Night Out
I do believe this new generation of fathers have a lot more on their plates than the Boomer dads but I suppose that comes with so many working moms. My heart goes out to all the single parents of the world. I can't imagine flying solo on this journey.
To my dad, my husband and all the other fathers out there, I wish you a fabulous Father's Day weekend. May you get to fish, drink a beer, read the paper, take a nap or whatever floats your boat in peace and quite. Then get ready, cause Monday, we ladies are going to need a Girls' Night Out.